In addition to bonding during and after birth (see article „Bonding – because touch is the root“), there is also the prenatal form of bonding. The concept of bond analysis by Dr. Jenö Raffai and György Hidas describe the method of prenatal bonding between mother and child that can take place during and before pregnancy – provided it is approved and actively encouraged. In preparation for pregnancy, the prenatal attachment analysis makes particular sense if there is stressful previous experience with the future mother, e.g. with miscarriages.

Internal communication in both directions
How can you deepen the naturally existing connection to the unborn child? First of all, it is important that the mother herself is relaxed and engages and can concentrate on her own body-related perceptions. Pregnant women find better contact with their body and soul. In individual sessions, the mother then learns to visually see body perceptions, feelings and thoughts and to pass them on to her unborn child. With an existing connection and functioning internal communication, the mother also receives pictorial answers from her unborn child. She finds out how her baby is doing in the womb and can better respond to her needs. The inner communication path between mother and child that works in both directions,

Without attachment we lack something.
Just as carefully as this deep inner contact is built up, mother and child also have to slowly and carefully say goodbye to the beautiful time of pregnancy in order to prepare for the birth. In the two-week, so-called detachment phase, the impending birth is therefore mentally repeated several times in order to reduce traumatic experiences or ideally avoid them altogether. The deep connection between mother and child definitely remains and is used positively during the birth.
In the absence of a prenatal bond, personality disorders in the baby can occur after birth. It is also reported that infants who have enjoyed the bond cry less and are less distorted from the head by birth. Deformations of the child’s skull are a sign of the forces that acted on the baby at birth. Babies born after the attachment analysis have a much lower traumatic load, which is clearly shown by less cranial deformities or a very rapid decrease in any deformities. The positive effect on the mother can be seen in the fact that in the attachment analyzes carried out so far, not a single case of postpartum depression in a mother is known.

Joint attachment analysis for mother and father
Even if the bond analysis primarily speaks of the bond between mother and child, the father also plays a very important role and should be actively involved in the bond process. He can also build a deep bond by touching the stomach and speaking to the unborn child, which at the same time strengthens the relationship with the mother of his child. The unborn child feels the closeness and familiarity around them and is in a socially protected space. Mothers and fathers who already develop an intensive relationship with their unborn child during pregnancy feel deeply connected. They are therefore much safer at birth and more relaxed afterwards. The attachment analysis therefore has a strong preventive influence on the mental health and stability of the family members involved. Incidentally, Caesarean section births are hardly an issue after attachment analyzes; just as little as premature babies.

Buchtipps zur Bindungsanalyse
Wer mehr über die emotionale Förderung der Beziehung zwischen Schwangeren und ihren Ungeborenen erfahren möchte, dem empfehle ich das Buch „Nabelschnur der Seele – Psychoanalytische Förderung der vorgeburtlichen Bindung zwischen Mutter und Baby“ von Györy Hidas, Jenö Raffai; erschienen im Psychosozial-Verlag. Ebenfalls empfehlenswert ist das Buch „Bauchgeflüster“ von Sabine Schlotz, die über die innige Mutter-Kind-Beziehung während der Schwangerschaft schreibt.Near bonding during and after birth, there is also a prenatal form of bonding (see article “Bonding – because: Touch is the basis“). The concept of bonding analysis by Dr Jenö Raffai and György Hidas describes the method of prenatal bonding between mother and child that can take place during and already before pregnancy – in case that it is allowed and actively promoted. In preparation of pregnancy, prenatal bonding analysis is especially sensible when the future mother has had burdening experience, e. g. with miscarriages.

Inner communication in both directions

Now, how can the mother’s naturally already existing bonding with her unborn child be deepened? First, it is important that the mother herself is relaxed and that she will embark and concentrate on her own physical perception. Pregnant women will thus initially find better contact to their bodies and souls. In single sittings, the mother will then learn to imagine emotions and thoughts and to communicate them to her unborn child. Thus, she learns how her baby in the womb is and she will better meet her/his needs. The inner way of communication that works in both directions is described as “the umbilical cord of the two souls“ by Raffai and Hidas.

Without bonding, something is lacking in life

In preparation of birth, mother and child have to dismiss the beautiful time of pregnancy as gingerly as their deep inner contact has been established. During the two weeks lasting phase of detachment, the forthcoming birth is mentally gone through a few times to lessen birth-traumatic experiences or to ideally avoid them completely. The deep bonding between mother and child will thereby absolutely persist and will be used positively during birth. If there is a lack of prenatal bonding, defects in the child’s personal development after birth can appear. It is also reported that sucklings who have enjoyed bonding cry lesser and suffer lesser from head deformations. Deformations of the infant‘s skull are indications of forces that have acted upon the baby during birth. Babys who are given birth after the bonding analysis carry home much lesser birth-traumatic burden. This will be manifested by much smaller skull deformations, and if they appear, they will rapidly recede. The positive effect on the mother is shown by the fact that not a single case of postnatal depression has been known with previous bonding analyses yet.

Common bonding analysis for mother and father

Although in bonding analysis, there is mostly talk of the bonding between mother and child, the father also takes an important part and should be involved actively in the process of bonding. He too can establish deep bonding by touching the belly and speaking to the unborn child. At the same time, he reinforces his relationship with his child’s mother. Thus the unborn feels the closeness and intimacy and is situated in a socially protected area. Mothers and fathers who already during pregnancy commonly establish an intensive relationship with their unborn child feel deeply related. They therefore are more confident during birth and calmer afterwards. Bonding analysis thus has a strong preventive influence on psychic health and stability of the family members involved. By the by, caesarean delivery as well as premature birth are less of an issue after bonding analyses.

Book tip

If you would like to learn more about the relationship between pregnant women and their unborn children, I recommend the following book: Hidas György, Jenö Raffai: Nabelschnur der Seele. Psychoanalytisch orientierte Förderung der vorgeburtlichen Bindung zwischen Mutter und Baby. Psychosozial- Verlag, Gießen 2006, ISBN 3-89806-458-1 Another recommendable book that deals with the profound mother-child relationship during pregnancy has been written by Sabine Schlotz: Bauchgeflüster. Trias Verlag, Stuttgart 2015. ISBN 9783830481652.

Near bonding during and after birth, there is also a prenatal form of bonding (see article “Bonding – because: Touch is the basis“). The concept of bonding analysis by Dr Jenö Raffai and György Hidas describes the method of prenatal bonding between mother and child that can take place during and already before pregnancy – in case that it is allowed and actively promoted. In preparation of pregnancy, prenatal bonding analysis is especially sensible when the future mother has had burdening experience, e. g. with miscarriages.

Inner communication in both directions
Now, how can the mother’s naturally already existing bonding with her unborn child be deepened? First, it is important that the mother herself is relaxed and that she will embark and concentrate on her own physical perception. Pregnant women will thus initially find better contact to their bodies and souls. In single sittings, the mother will then learn to imagine emotions and thoughts and to communicate them to her unborn child. Thus, she learns how her baby in the womb is and she will better meet her/his needs. The inner way of communication that works in both directions is described as “the umbilical cord of the two souls“ by Raffai and Hidas.

Without bonding, something is lacking in life
In preparation of birth, mother and child have to dismiss the beautiful time of pregnancy as gingerly as their deep inner contact has been established. During the two weeks lasting phase of detachment, the forthcoming birth is mentally gone through a few times to lessen birth-traumatic experiences or to ideally avoid them completely. The deep bonding between mother and child will thereby absolutely persist and will be used positively during birth. If there is a lack of prenatal bonding, defects in the child’s personal development after birth can appear. It is also reported that sucklings who have enjoyed bonding cry lesser and suffer lesser from head deformations. Deformations of the infant‘s skull are indications of forces that have acted upon the baby during birth. Babys who are given birth after the bonding analysis carry home much lesser birth-traumatic burden. This will be manifested by much smaller skull deformations, and if they appear, they will rapidly recede. The positive effect on the mother is shown by the fact that not a single case of postnatal depression has been known with previous bonding analyses yet.

Common bonding analysis for mother and father
Although in bonding analysis, there is mostly talk of the bonding between mother and child, the father also takes an important part and should be involved actively in the process of bonding. He too can establish deep bonding by touching the belly and speaking to the unborn child. At the same time, he reinforces his relationship with his child’s mother. Thus the unborn feels the closeness and intimacy and is situated in a socially protected area. Mothers and fathers who already during pregnancy commonly establish an intensive relationship with their unborn child feel deeply related. They therefore are more confident during birth and calmer afterwards. Bonding analysis thus has a strong preventive influence on psychic health and stability of the family members involved. By the by, caesarean delivery as well as premature birth are less of an issue after bonding analyses.

Book tip
If you would like to learn more about the relationship between pregnant women and their unborn children, I recommend the following book: Hidas György, Jenö Raffai: Umbilical Cord of the Soul. Psychoanalytically oriented promotion of the prenatal bond between mother and baby. Psychosozial- Verlag, Gießen 2006, ISBN 3-89806-458-1 Another recommendable book that deals with the profound mother-child relationship during pregnancy has been written by Sabine Schlotz: Bauchgeflüster. Trias Verlag, Stuttgart 2015. ISBN 9783830481652.

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